"Mommy, why does my little three year old buddy (name has been changed to protect the parents of the innocent) always have a runny nose and a dirty mouth"?
Can you believe it! The nerve of him asking about the condition of another child's nose or mouth, when I am constantly saying to him, "Wipe your mouth. Wipe your nose"! Or saying, "Let mommy wipe your mouth. Let mommy wipe your nose"! How ironic it is, that he has noted that someone else always has a dirty nose and mouth-- but not himself.
I have to admit, I really wanted to laugh. Then I grew concerned. What if he posed that exact question to the child himself? Or worse! What if he asked the parent of the child? And to add anxiety to my concern, "the Daddy" got in on the conversation and thought it would be funny if the next time he saw the father of the child in question, he would share our three year old's concern.
Even "the Big Brother" recognized, that it was not polite to ask such a question out loud. Whew! I am glad to know that "the Mommy's" moments on manners are resonating in someones brain.
So, I believe we all have agreed, that it is not polite to wonder aloud about the condition of another person’s nose or mouth. What should you do instead? I'm glad you asked! Politely offer them a napkin and let them know there is something on their mouth. Yes, even at three, this is the most appropriate way to handle this type of "sticky" situation.
Teaching manners to kids is no longer the priority it was when I was growing up. Even Margo on RHOA is taking etiquette classes. Seriously? You mean to tell me, no one told her before now, that you break off your bread, butter and then eat, instead of buttering the whole bread. Surely she knew long before now, that ladies cross their legs at the ankles. I guess that is the problem. Many parents’ today, are not aware of the simple rules of social etiquette and therefore are not teaching them to their children. After all, how many times lately, have you followed someone through a door only to have him or her release the door in your face?
So just to make sure, that Margo (RHOA) is not the only one brushing up on social graces, I have provided a list of five things you could start doing immediately to improve your social behavior. (You're suppose to say, thank you!)
And now, you along with Margo are well on your way to better habits, cleaner faces and much better social graces.
- Don't be tardy for the party. In other words, be on time! Stop being late everywhere you go.
- Say yes to the dress. Dress appropriately for the occasion. Just because you think a sundress and cowboy boots are cute does not mean it is appropriate attire. Just because they make it in your size does not mean you should wear it. After all, if you found it in the store, some other person your size left it there for a reason.
- You're not a celebrity, so if you must be on the phone, get out of here. Mobile phones have brought about some extreme conveniences, but you should not use them in certain places or events. Short list: Church, job interview, date, meeting, prayer, school play, restaurant, examination table, restroom, movie theater, concert, etc. This also includes texting.
- What you post online could cause you a deal or no deal. Quit posting all your business on the Internet for all to see. A future employer, spouse or business partner would think twice about hiring, marrying or investing in you after reading horrid details on Facebook of a relationship gone bad. And even if you are a teenager, five to ten years from now, those details can come back to haunt you. (Hello Facebook Timeline)
- In the real world, no one really cares what you are doing, where you have checked into, how many friends you have, how many are following you, who you're linked too, who you like, what you have stumbled upon or what are your Pinterest if you are rude and impolite. Say bless you if I sneeze, follow request with a please, and no matter what they do, don't you forget to say thank you!